Character flaws, Character Checkup, Jesus Redeemer

Gods-willThis morning in our Saturday Morning Men's Group (called Men of Faith) we talked about a passage that struck me in a different way. The text is in Luke 17:7-10 which states:

(ESV) Unworthy Servants 7 “Will any one of you who has a servant[a] plowing or keeping sheep say to him when he has come in from the field, ‘Come at once and recline at table’? 8 Will he not rather say to him, ‘Prepare supper for me, and dress properly,[b] and serve me while I eat and drink, and afterward you will eat and drink’? 9 Does he thank the servant because he did what was commanded? 10 So you also, when you have done all that you were commanded, say, ‘We are unworthy servants;[c] we have only done what was our duty.’”.

I am not sure about the rest of you, but what hit me in the text is a mulititude of emotions that become evident in my life at various times and places as events unfold. That is to say, when there are other stresses of life events that cause me to stray away from being the man that God wants me to be. As I was preparing to lead this morning earlier in the week, I conveniently stumbled (thank you Holy Spirit) on a blog entry from Tim Keller, in which Tim so eloquently talks about John Newton.

Tim gave a list of his that I used to begin the bible study with before going onto Luke 17:7-10. Here is Tim's list:

Austerus is a solid and disciplined Christian, but abrasive, critical and ungenerous in dealing with people, temperamental, seldom giving compliments and praise, and almost never gentle.

Infitialis is a person of careful and deliberate character, but habitually cynical, negative, and pessimistic, always discouraging (“that will never work”), unsupportive and vaguely unhappy.

Pulsus is passionate, but also impulsive and impatient, not thinking things through, speaking too soon, always quick to complain and lodge a protest, often needing to apologize for rash statements.

Querulus is a person of strong convictions, but known to be very opinionated, a poor listener, argumentative, not very teachable, and very slow to admit they were wrong.

Subjectio is a resourceful and ambitious person, but also someone who often shades the truth, puts a lot of spin on things (close to misrepresentation), is very partisan, self-promoting, and turf-conscious.

Potestas gets things done, but needs to control every situation, has trouble sharing power, has a need to do everything him or herself, and is very suspicious and mistrustful of others.

Fragilis is friendly and seeks friends, but constantly gets his or her feelings hurt, easily feels slighted and put down, is often offended and upset by real and imagined criticism by others.

Curiosus is very sociable, but enjoys knowing negative things about people, finds ways of passing the news on, may divulge confidences, and enjoys confrontation too much.

Volatilis is very kind-hearted and eager to help, but simply not reliable—isn’t punctual, doesn’t follow through on promises, is always over-extended, and as a result may do shoddy work.

What surprised me next was the amount of "quiet" was in the room. You seen, normally these guys like to talk, but not this time. It seemed like Tim's "latin phrases" through the Holy Spirit struck a chord with the guys. It was not my intent to condemn, but rather to put things in perspective, which is why we went right to Luke 17:7-10. To me, that verse tells us that we are to live in such a way that when others look at our lives (our actions, our deeds and our thoughts) that they see the light and love of Jesus Christ. When we do his will and not ours, it is amazing at what God will do through us if we just sumbmit and obey his will.

As you read these verses I would like you to put this in perspective and use this as a time to do a self check and possilby a time of confession in where we are with Jesus. Draw near to him and see what he can and will do in your life.

Thoughts?

Dante

Top 10 Ways to ruin your marriage

cakeBy no means are we suggesting that you take this path.  As you know, Lance, Gary and myself give you ways to build a legacy with your wife and kids.  Often, though, we find relationships that put "self" in front of God's ways, which brings me to this list: 

The Top 10 Ways To Ruin Your Marriage:

10. Not treating your spouse with respect

9.  Letting other things comes first

8.  Being unfair (not attempting to see her side)

7.  Being cold (dead to relationship)

6.  Taking away intimacy (both emotionally and physically)

5.  Being untrustworthy

4.  Breaking promises

3.  Putting yourself first and do not die to self

2.  A non-sexual affair (a computer, social network and/or improper friendships)

1.  A sexual affair (breaking the marriage-covenant)

Fathers, Mentors, Disciples of Christ

“Remember that mentor leadership is all about serving. Jesus said, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45).”― Tony Dungy, The Mentor Leader: Secrets to Building People and Teams That Win Consistently

“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.”

― Plato

“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.”

― William Arthur Ward

getinvolved4Why are you here?  What is your purpose for living?  What should you be doing and giving with what God has given you?  How should I raise my child (children)?  Am I doing God's will?  What is God's will for my life?  Should I withhold good when it is in my power to act?  How can I (one man) make a difference?

Whether or not these are questions that you randomly ask yourself, at some time or another these themes keep popping back up in my head and my thoughts continue to ponder these questions over and over and over again.

I am writing this to followers of Jesus Christ (not unbelievers or just fans, but Followers).  That being said, if you do know know Christ as your personal Savior (google Romans Road of Salvation - or send us an email or find a bible believing/preaching church and ask their pastor/elders how to be saved.  For the rest of you that choose to continue to read this - thank you!  I would also beg for your input and thoughts into this post.   DiscipleshipTitle1

A while ago, Lance had put out what our readers wanted to hear more about and one of the responses was this:  "Sacrifice/love of fathers/mentors? Much like the examples of Abraham/Isaac, God/Jesus, Paul/Timothy."  I love this response and topic.  Jesus Christ called us to be disciples and not just fans not just pew sitters - he wants Kingdom builders and Heavy Hitters for His will (Not ours!).

If we are to truly be disciples of Christ then we have to sacrifice everything for Him and His will.

Let’s see what Jesus said about the cost of discipleship:“Luke 14:25-33 The Cost of Discipleship

25 Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. 28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace. 33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple."

Let's put it this way, as disciples of Christ, we are called to pick up are Cross and carry it daily.  Does that sound easy, passive and unresponsive to God's will and plan for us?  When you weigh these two things, for me, it is easy to see that sacrifice is paramount here.  As fathers we are called to be fully engaged and to develop and rear are child to love the Lord with all his heart, soul, body, strength and mind.  We are also told to teach them to love their neighbor.  When we mentor - we sacrifice our valuable time.  We choose to put others (serve others) before we serve ourselves.

All throughout the Bible we see countless sacrifice of mentors, leaders, fathers and disciples keenly aware of the cost (even in their fears and weaknesses), but they all have Faith.  Jesus was unquestionably the greatest example for mentoring others - he walked with his disciples for 3 years with patience and tolerance and even when they still didn't get most of what he was saying - God knew that they had so much more in them - the Holy Spirit to do his Kingdom work and not theirs.

Less of me, more of God!  That is the posture I will take more often than not!

Your thoughts?

Dante

5 Reasons why it is worth having kids...

The top 5 Reasons why it is worth having kids:top5#5     You see everything for the first time again through the child's eyes — even the littlest of things are amazing.

#4     The meaning of life, the importance of life and the extravagance of life are all rolled into this little gift from God.

#3     We get to enjoy the miracle of child-bearing and the role of parenting...

#2     No matter how much pain and grief our kids cause us, we are reminded daily (hourly and by the seconds) just how much God loves us no matter what (God's love never fades, never runs out on us)

#1     We begin to understand just how much God loves us!