Good bye old friend...

Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Samson Alexander Girolimon the First

5/26/2001 - 12/2/2011

Grow into a faithful man (by Unknown)

When I began this Christian walk in Christ I was a child.  My faith was easily tested, for my life had been quite wild.But I had faithful men to pray with me and help me find the way.  They gently nudged and shared the Word and knew just what to say.

I marveled at their wisdom, envied it in fact, As they carried me along and helped me spiritually stay intact.

It was the Holy Spirit in them which gave them love and joy and peace.  And as they loved me because they were loved, my spiritual life increased.

As I read the Word and understood it, (Holy Spirit there again), I came to know and understand that these were faithful Godly men.

Not just because of what they did for me, but for the Spirit in their hearts.  With that help they were faithful and loving, their wisdom to impart.

I wasn't always faithful, I faltered now and then, But I have been lifted up repeatedly by faithful Godly men.

I now strive to be like them, for they strived to follow God's plan.  They loved (and still love) and nurtured to help me grow into a man.

Am I a faithful man?  I hope so, but I'm still climbing towards the throne, Led by faithful Godly men because the way there they've freely shown.

We must no longer be a child but grow into faithful men.  And reach back to help those who are children, when they falter in sin.

Someone did the same for you, a preacher, a father, a friend.  It was a child we were in the beginning; it is a faithful man we must be in the end.

By an anonymous Deacon.

 

Thanksgiving, a Few Days Late.

Thanksgiving, a Few Days Late.My wife and I were discussing being blessed and cursed, this morning.  Wait, it's not a strange as it sounds.  The conversation started as we were sitting in a small cafe' on Michigan Ave. in Chicago, celebrating our 18th anniversary.  Celebrating a family that is a huge blessing to us and one we were having fun being grateful for.

However , we are both divorced, with kids.  And while our blended family (kids all grown now) is a magnificent blessing, it can be really hard.  Especially now during the holidays; its not necessarily a blessing for us or for the kids.  The blend is something we all live with, always there but never more tangible than in this season.  Blessed and cursed, in tension.

And we are not alone.  You aren't either.

Maybe this tension is a microcosm of  what it means to be Christian.  Broken flesh and reborn spirit, old man and new man, cursed and blessed, living together for a while.

Still, we are not alone.

I think about our Lord Jesus Christ and wonder if he didn't walk the same way, blessed as the Son of God, cursed living in this broken world and ultimately carrying our curse of sin completely.

Into hell.  Out again.  Cursed and blessed.

Jesus, thank you.  No really, from the bottom of everything we are, thank you.

You get us,

Kurt

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(NOTE:  Kurt is a great friend of mine who is an elder and facilitator in our chruch/men's group, respectively) - thanks Kurt for your insight! -Dante)

 

What are you thankful for...?

This past Saturday, I had the privelege to be a bystander and watch and listen to a group of men that really made me appreciate our men's ministry. First of all, the morning started with a few songs led by a guy who wanted us to start the day out with praise and worship a while ago. The last song that he played (we sang) was from Jesus Culture called One Thing Remains. It was powerful to listen to words that are not about us, but about who made us and who loves us more than we ever could. The two facilitators that morning decided that the group was just too big for everyone to share, so they split the group up and we discussed our lives and the Bible verses we read and what each meant to us. It was a great morning and a powerful morning.Holiday weeks can be a bit taxing with everything going on and since my mother died back in March, I, for the life of me, cannot catch up with all the paperwork and responsibility that comes with responsibility of being the executor and my father living in assisted living. That being said, I have been really thankful for my family. First of all, for my wife, Kate, who loves me no matter what I do - you see we married each other for better or for worse - no "ifs" "ands" or "buts"...When we said "We do" we meant it. I am thankful for that.

I am thankful for our three wonderful children that God has blessed us with.  I love the way that God has made each of them and I appreciate how much they show me how much God must love me!

I am thankful for my friends that I pray for. When I first got into ministry I prayed for spiritual friends like I have today, I am thankful for that.

Today, even in my own personal trials and tribulations, I am thankful!

What about you?  What are you thankful for?

Dante

Radical Mentoring

Twitter.com can sometimes bring to light ideas that have be stuck in neutral (in my head) for a very long time, that is, I know what the right thing is to do, but I sometimes find the business of life can distract me from doing what I know should be done...I am a leader in my church's Men's Ministry called Men of Faith.  I recently sent a letter (via email) to each of our Facilitators for men's group sharing some thought and ideas about taking men's ministry to the next level.  Let's just call it a 201 level were we will embark on an initial 6 month commitment with 4 to 6 men per group to go deeper, dig deeper and study scripture together.

Then I get this tweet on Radical Mentoring:

Radical Mentoring from Radical Mentoring on Vimeo.

The article along with it stated the following:

Ever been mentored? Ever mentored? Female or Male … if not, you are missing out. You are missing out on someone who has some years on you … challenging you, serving you, listening to you, guiding you, offering you examples of what they did and wished they hadn’t.

How would you classify your mentoring experience? Reactive or Proactive?

Back in 2007 … I (Bryan) went through a year-long structured mentoring group led by Regi Campbell (the guy speaking in the video above). It was like getting a baby MBA. Regi, as a successful business guy proactively led 8 guys around my age, with similar characteristics through a mentoring group that fascinated me. Regi was already busy … and yet … he had control of his time enough to investment in me and our group with his time. Not to mention that he is crazy in love with Jesus. I was in “RMG 7″ which stood for Radical Mentoring Group – 7th year.

Yip! 7 years … he had poured himself (as of 2007) … and now more groups have occurred. It felt like a Band of Brothers. We argued & push-backed. We discussed & learned from each other. We poked fun at each other. We read books together & netted them out with each other. We memorized scripture. We went on 2 private retreats. We prayed together. ALL under the watchful eye of Regi. Don’t miss this … he proactively guided eight 30-somethings with huge ambitions all in 1 year.

Some other mentoring considerations for you today:

  1. Are you hungering for a mentor? Seek one. Ask God to provide you with one.
  2. Be intentional about your mentoring effort … have a plan … regardless of whether you are the mentor or mentee.
    • How long?
    • What will you do?
    • What will you read?
    • How many of you will there be?
    • What are your end goal(s)?
  3. I see too many young men who hunger to be mentored … BUT … their mentors are not structured. They think that asking tough questions can happen with someone once a quarter at a Waffle House is mentoring. That’s not mentoring … that’s having an arm’s length acquaintance. One-directional question asking is just that. As a mentor you have to expose all & be as transparent.
  4. What is at stake? Imagine more & more young people deciding to intentionally, and proactively be led by a person, for a defined period of time … with an end-goal of being more in love with Jesus, a stronger leader, better husband, greater friend, engaged parent, contributor to society … the list is endless.

Regi, has now created a new entity called Radical Mentoring. If you are interested in creating this sort of environment in your church or business … reach out to his new group.

Thank you Regi … for your proactive investment in me.

Bryan

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So the question I have for you (Reader) are you being mentored?  Are you mentoring?  Whose life are you involved with?  Why not?  What is holding you back?

Dante

 

10 Years...

Last week my family went on our annual vacation, which normally would fall on this week, but because of teachers' conferences, we moved the vacation up one week.  We went to Florida (Clearwater Beach & Disney World) and we had a great time, even with the stresses of work lingering into my vacation, I was able to really enjoy my family.As we spent 2 days in Disney and a week on the beach and in the swimming pool, I asked my son what vacation meant for him.  His answer really put things in perspective for me:  "Daddy, that is simple, it is about being with your family and relaxing."  I think that for a seven year old to find that answer at such a young age speaks volumes to this generation.  In life's hustle and bustle and technology boom, we need to take a step back, breathe and inhale the sweet smell of family.

Every morning that I woke up I either went to eat out with the family (nieces and nephews and grandparents) and then I would read my Bible and pray and thank God for the blessing of family.  The blessing of comfort in family and the secure feeling to know that I have four people in my life that think the best of me no matter what else life throws at me.

Speaking of which, tomorrow (11/10/11) will mark my 10 year anniversary of marriage to my beautiful wife - Kate. I cannot even begin to tell you how faithful God has been to me even when I have turned my back on him in my twenties, he stayed faithful and true and knew the plans that he had for me, plans to prosper me.  He gave me my wife and kept his promise to me.  I have a Proverbial 31 wife.  She is an awesome wife and an incredible mother through the good and bad/hills and valleys of parenting.  Kate would be the first to tell you that her and I don't always "get it right" in relationship and in parenting, but we are committed to see it through and to be our families greatest fans.  When life gets difficult and sometimes downright unbearable it is family and a right relationship with God that can see you through any valley.  Kate has taught me a lot in life and she doesn't even realize how much she has.

She has taught me to love family even when it is difficult to do so.  We choose our friends and not our family, therefore, we have to love our family no matter what.  She has taught me that when I set my mind to things I can do almost anything that I set a goal to, even if I fail along the way.  She has taught me that I can talk through any argument and not to hold grudges through life.  When she says she forgives - she truly forgives.  When she knows that I am mad, she won't let it rest until we see it through.  She has taught me how much my mom loved me, because I see the love that she has for me, my son Trey and my daughters, Audrey and Belle.

One of the work stress into vacation days was when we went to see Winter (the dolphin with no tail) as the kids had to go see the female dolphin after going to see the movie in the theater.  With love and with family, we can overcome any obstacle - even losing a tail along the way.

As I will hopefully come home from work tomorrow, I cannot wait to see my beautiful bride and to tell her exactly what she means to me.  What my marriage to her means to me and to tell her how thankful that I am that God is in the center of our marriage and how much I appreciate her as a friend, a wife, a lover and mother!

When this life is done the legacy that I want to leave my children and hopefully some readers who truly love this blog is this:  Of faith, hope and love - love is the one thing that we need to put above all the rest.  For God so loved the world that He gave his only Son.  That whosoever believes in him shall be saved.

Thank you Kate!  I am proud to be your husband!

Love,

Dante

The 10 Commandments

The 10 Commandments via the Old TestamentExodus, Chapter 20. They were given directly by God to the people of Israel at Mount Sinai after He had delivered them from slavery in Egypt: 

"And God spoke all these words, saying: 'I am the LORD your God

ONE: 'You shall have no other gods before Me.'

TWO: 'You shall not make for yourself a carved image--any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.'

THREE: 'You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.'

FOUR: 'Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.'

FIVE: 'Honor your father and your mother.'

SIX: 'You shall not murder.'

SEVEN: 'You shall not commit adultery.'

EIGHT: 'You shall not steal.'

NINE: 'You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.'

TEN: 'You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.'

The 10 Commandments via the New TestamentAbout 1,400 years later, the 10 Commandments were summed up in the New Testament at Matthew 22, when Jesus was confronted by the religious "experts" of the day:

"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments" (Matthew 22:36-40).

A reflective reading of Christ's teaching reveals that the first four commandments given to the children of Israel are contained in the statement: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." It continues that the last six commandments are enclosed in the statement: "Love your neighbor as yourself."