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ActLikeMen-Quote-JamesMacDonald1Psalm 1:1-6 ESV Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; ...

1 Corinthians 16:13-14 ESV Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.

This weekend marks the third and final weekend of ActLikeMen.  With three weekends that spanned from California to Canada and this weekend in the Midwest, all I can say is how encouraged I am as a man of God.  That is, to say, that I am truly confident that some men (likely not all) will turn toward being a disciple of Christ through these weekends.  Why?  Because God has called us to be his disciples.  Why?  Because men will hear that ever so quiet voice calling us to be less for ourselves and more for God.ActLikeMen-Quote-MarkDriscoll1

The ultimate goal of a true disciple of Christ is not to shrink into manhood, but rather to let others see the love of Jesus Christ in us (to see Jesus) and to see less of ourselves.

Psalm 112:1-10 ESV Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in his commandments! His offspring will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed. Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever. Light dawns in the darkness for the upright; he is gracious, merciful, and righteous. It is well with the man who deals generously and lends; who conducts his affairs with justice. ...

Here is the challenge to all of us:  Whether you attended this conference, opened your bible or prayed the prayer of a humble man, can you ask God to reveal his plans to you.  Can you ask him to take control over ALL of your life?  Will you pray Proverbs 3:3-5 in your life, which says, "Trust in the Lord with all of your heart.  Lean not on your understand, but acknowledge him in all your ways and he will make your paths straight."

Where you go (Lord) I will go, where you stay (Lord) I will stay.  Where you lead (Lord) I will follow.  Oh praise him he has done a mighty thing for us- by his sacrifice we are saved.  By his love - we are made new.

Hoping to hear from you all! #actlikemen

Blessings,

Dante

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Identity Crisis

Recently, I had the privelege to teach our high school students in our youth group ministry.  I was asked to teach on the subject (question) of why do we need the church.  The youth Pastor played a poignant video prior to my speaking that was an interview of various students that had said why the church was irrelevant and why they were turned off by church.  The video, in my opinion, raised some really good and unfortunate honest opinions on some church members that are misguided in their relational ministries (note:  my opinion).  That being said, I began with a game (candy being the prize) and went right into various Scriptures:  1 Corinthians 12, Romans 12:5, Hebrews 10:24-25 and so on.Before this speaking engagement, I was going over my notes and timing myself for the youth pastor and scheduling.  As I was praying and reflecting I was struck by the fact that we are called (as the body of Christ) to love one another.  The thing that really struck my core is that some of us have an identity crisis, that is, that we do not love ourselves so how can we be expected to love others (encourage, comfort and urge)?  Thus, the identity crisis,  which is why my opinion is why we have problems of loving one another (because some of us cannot love ourselves).  I do not want you to take this as narcissistic or put "myself" before God's Kingdom, actually, quite the contrary.

identityHere is my position, we are no longer are "old-self".  We, those who profess Jesus Christ, are a new creation.  Thereby, we are now sons and daughters of God.  When we realize this fact, then we can have  a healthy identity of who we are and then we can allow the Holy Spirit to grow us into who He wants and not what we once were.  2 Corinthians 5:17  (ESV) 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.[a]The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."  God has intended for his church to be his bride.  God has plans for us, plans to be his disciples.  He gave us the Church so that even the gates of hell could not prevail against it.  If the body is acting in the way that Jesus intended, then that is a very beautiful thing to behold and to be part of.  It is a very powerful force driven by the Holy Spirit.  Did you catch that, we are no longer ourselves (in our pain and anguish of our old sinful self) - we are now his Sons and Daughters.  We are engrafted into his family because of the love of the Father!

When the body is working together for the purposes of God's Kingdom (reaching the disconnected and growing the connected) it is such a thing of beauty.  It is powerful and it is effective in preaching and teaching God's love story - He came down, he bore our sin to death on a cross, he rose again and he now sits at the right hand of God.  Why? Because he loves us.  He loves his bride.  Why do we need community?  Why do we always ask our parents (when we were young) why?  Because they really do know better when they are showing Agape love.  As a Christian (a Christ-follower, a disciple of Christ) we can be rest-assured that Jesus loves us, that he died for us and that because of his work on the cross, we are FORGIVEN of past, present and future sins - IT IS FINISHED.  Jesus said that for a reason.  He knew that he was faithful and obedient to his Father's will.  Jesus called us to do the same for Him.  To be his disciple means more than just being a pew sitter, it means for us to move from pew sitter to heavy hitter!  Jesus gave us the Church, so we can have community with the Saints to help us carry our burdens to do His will!letgo

Any questions?  Please let us know!

Dante

Who said Facebook cannot be useful....two cups of coffee :)

THE MAYONNAISE JAR</p><br /><p>When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.</p><br /><p>A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.</p><br /><p>When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.</p><br /><p>He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. </p><br /><p>The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.</p><br /><p>He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. </p><br /><p>The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. </p><br /><p>He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”. </p><br /><p>The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. </p><br /><p>“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - God, family,<br /><br />children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.” he said.</p><br /><p>“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are<br /><br />important to you...” he told them.</p><br /><p>“So... pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”</p><br /><p>One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. </p><br /><p>The professor smiled and said, “I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”</p><br /><p>Please share this with other "Golf Balls"
THE MAYONNAISE JARWhen things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - God, family,children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.” he said.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that areimportant to you...” he told them.

“So... pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled and said, “I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

Please share this with other "Golf Balls"

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I saw this on FB this am and it made me smile.  So often life can get really busy, but when the music fades and we are called to give an account of what we did with our time, talent and treasure (READ Ecclesiastes) - what will your life say....?
Thoughts?
Dante

My faith and a zip line...Man up, Part 3 of....

zipaudrey  Man up, Part 3 of ....Strongholds versus God's KingdomThis past week my whole family and I were up in Michigan on vacation.  This place we go to has it all (beach, pool, hiking, zip-lines, rock-climbing, preaching and daily teaching and a kids' program to boot.  One of the days I took all 2 of my 3 kids, some cousins and my sister-in-law zip-lining.  My wife stayed back with our youngest who was not old enough for the zip.  When you cut through the trails and up the hill you see this long tower that you have to climb before you can be strapped on to the Zip-line.  There is a moment of apprehension that can be viewed in some of the kids that attempted this trial.  The picture to the left is my middle child.  She had no apprehension whatsoever in her.  She climbed, she trusted and then she jumped right off the tower trusting with wreck-less abandon.   Meanwhile, her cousin, who usually has no fear, climbed to the top without any hitch until she got to the point of complete trust in the Zip-line and the assistant who would undue the climbing rope and attach the Zip-line.  She freaked and she shook and she didn't want to let go.

After several minutes and a lot of encouraging from the ground level (cousins, uncles, mom and others) she crawled to the edge and sat down and finally let go and zipped down the hill.  As we said, she loved it, she loved it so much that she did it two more times.  This of course, made me think and reflect with how we are with God with some of the strongholds in our lives.  That is, to say, the things that we still want control over and that we don't want to give up to God.  Say for instance:  Finances, hobbies, sports, extra-curricular activities, or you plug-in what you are thinking of this very instant.  For me, it is really good and easy to trust when things are going without any problems or pain or hurts.  I mean, I know I love God with all my heart and that I trust him (most of the time) but then there are instances where I find myself putting me in front of him and trying to weather the storm or do it my way or maybe I think that I can handle it and maybe I feel like I just don't want to bother Him with such minute details.  Who are we kidding, right?

letgoI would think that most of you reading this at one point or another in your lives are brought to this very point in your lives (your walk of Faith).  We climb to our own successes and we get to that point where we are about to let go of the climbing line and strap onto the zip-lines of our faith.  That moment when we let go and let God.  For some of us, we have had pasts that we are to afraid to let go.  For others, we don't want to give up that control to trust (that stronghold in each and every one of our lives) and for others it is just plain fear.  If we are honest, I would bet that 100% of us fall in one of these descriptions in our lives.  Maybe it is co-habitation and we are afraid to commit and trust God's plan for our lives.  Maybe it is finances or some major decision in our lives that we will trust ourselves but are afraid to trust God.  Maybe for some of us it is those dark places in our lives that we don't want to let go of (alcohol, pornography, sexual promiscuity....(you fill in your blank)) and we are just too afraid to let go and let God.  For me, it was the point of my marriage (early in my life) when I had created my own sets of morality based on my twenties (not walking with God) and was in my early 30's trying to justify sin in my life to a Holy God.  I was in the early years of my marriage and finally had to have an honest talk with my wife and prayer with God.  I was reading through the Bible and was deeply convicted of my false sense of morality (making myself a god instead of trusting our Holy God).  I had to confess this false sense of morality and impurity to both my wife and to my Lord.  I asked for forgiveness to the both of them and my wife didn't judge me (like I thought she would) in fact, she told me to do something about it (get serious in my walk).  Basically to let go and let God do this work in my life.  So I did!  Both her and I started serving more in church and building in community.  I got more and more involved in the men's ministry and had brothers who (to this day) keep me accountable and pray with me and for me.  I have a wife who isn't insecure of our love and who trusts me  because she trust the God in our lives who is convicting me to lead a life worthy of His Salvation for me.  Not by works, I cannot earn my way to Heaven, but by Faith.  My act of worship (thankfulness and adoration) is my walk and worship of Him and to let go and Let God do this in my life - complete trust and complete obedience.  Do I always get this right, no!  As a matter of fact, I sin every day and I mess up all the time (I am a man and not God).  He knows my strengths and he knows my weaknesses as well).  He has plans for me, plans not to harm me and plans to prosper me.

ziplineaudreyWherever you are in your walk right now, reflect on these things that I am saying and ask yourself, ask God and His Spirit to reveal the things in your life that you have to let go of.   Pray on these things and ask that he will remove the strongholds in our lives (our own kingdoms) and that he will show us His Kingdom in our lives and what he requires us to do for Him.  When you find yourself climbing that "proverbial tower" in your life (like my niece did this past week) and you are about to let go of the climbing line and jump in faith to what God has in store for you and your life then and only then can we see his will for us, his plan for us and what he desires most for us.  Hebrews 11:6  And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.  Proverbs 3:5-6  Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Four years ago (and then again 3 years) ago, I almost lost my wife.  She was extremely close to renal failure 4 years ago.  At that time, I had a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old and a 2-year-old.  I had a hard time trusting.  I had many nights of arguing and tears shed and battles with God.  After I put the kids to bed and did all the work that needed to be done while my wife was in the hospital, I would fall into bed and argue with God.  I don't recall all the tears or words that were said, but I did ask if this was his plan for my life?  Really?  I couldn't believe it.  That night I heard this song performed by Tree63 called blessed be your name.  There is a part of that song that says, "You give and take away, BUT blessed be your name!"  Job prayed that and said that when he lost everything (personal wealth, children, homes, etc.,) yet he praised God.  Oh, the weak faith that I have at times.  But that night I prayed that part of the song, knowing that he could very well take my wife home to be with Him.  I cried and I let go.  The next day I had this incredible peace (it was day 5 of the 6 days that my wife was in the hospital) and the phone rang that morning.  It was the lady who was the head of our prayer team and she said to me that her and 6 other ladies were praying for me that very hour that I had the peace.  My mother-in-law, who was 1500 miles away at that time had the exact time of peace - God is in control and all he asks is that we let go and let God.

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Can we man up?  Can we let go of the strongholds in our lives and let God tear them down and peel those layers away?

Thoughts?Dante

Spring Hill is the place for your kids - Trust Me!

Last year we hosted our first annual SpringHill party with the counselors who run our week long camp for kids.  This year we had two weeks at our main campus and a week before that our one of our multi-sites.  I was traveling for the first two weeks in June (thank you Kate for taking care of the house and kids while I was working).  Anyways, I digress, but my wife asked if I would mind if our house hosted 4 young women counselors from Spring Hill.We were blessed!  We had four wonderful young ladies who were full of spunk and who eventually let their hair down in our house!  It was a pleasure to know them.  It was a pleasure to know the love that they have for Jesus - and how they share that love with kids (with our kids).

Tonight, we had forty counselors over our house for "Brinner" (which means in this generation:  Breakfast for dinner).  Thanks to two great friends of my wife and I (Master Chef and Master Chef Wife) - we had a successful run at our annual year two pool party.

I met one counselor who hailed from Hawaii (how he ended up in the Midwest - I will never know).  We got to talking as I asked him about all the tattoos that he  had on his body.  One was a Greek phrase, which mean, bondservant/servant.  As we started talking about that he shared part of his testimony.  He was walking in a life that was not desirable to his church or our God and he knew it.  He had one section of people who wanted to throw him out of the church (life as we know it) and he had a group of individual who impacted his life tremendously - I call it the Church of Galatians 6:  1 Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves.

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They met him where he was at.  They loved him for who he was and who they knew that he could become - they didn't give up on him - they were a friend to him.  Since that day - let me tell you I just spent just a couple hours tonight observing him - you have a disciple of Christ - who will grow into someone who will finish well.  I don't want to name him now as I didn't ask for permission in sharing this story, but he impacted me.

It reminds me to never forget those who we think cannot be helped - God is much bigger than we realize.  It reminds me of how blessing others really does bless us.  It reminds me to finish well, no matter the cost.

Thank you Spring Hill Counselors!  Thank you ladies who blessed us these past two weeks!  Thank you Ray & Mary and Thank you Lord for keeping me humble enough to catch these wonderful moments in life.

To God Be the Glory!  Let Go and Let God.

Blessings,Dante